Last night we went out for someone's birthday which started out in the northern quarters, i really like it even if it's stupidly expensive.
Anyway before i transitioned i had big problems with the gay village in Manchester and the gay bar in Burnley, mainly cos i couldn't identify with lesbians for which now obvious as to why so i didn't have any gay/queer friends in Burnley which meant I hung out in 'straight' pubs with my straight friends, their sexuality doesn't really come into it cos I never felt left out, no one cared. I may of spent years 'hating' the idea of the gay scene but in a weird way I'm glad cos it has made me not care who people sleep with when it comes to going to clubs or bars which I know a few people can't say. Don't get me wrong I'm a lot more wary when I'm in straight places now cos I've not had surgery but I pass more more often now it's not that much of an issue and i managed to find a disabled toilet in both bars so the problem i usually panic about didn't arise.
I am a proud queer boy and I love all my queer friends. I feel really safe when I'm with them and in queer spaces. Its weird that I've gone from having loads of straight friends and hanging out in straight environments to being more visibly queer and finding my own group within the village, so to me it's like I've lost my 'straight' identity even though I don't identify as straight.
Anyway what I'm trying to say is that I'm glad i can go out in both 'worlds' and not care.
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